I have been having a rough week and was having a hard time pinpointing it, but it is clear to me tonight.
For the past month, I have never read more hate-filled, xenophobic, and racist posts on social media from people that I am friends/friendly with than ever before. My heart feels so heavy this week.
Last month when Paris was attacked, I left the morning of the attacks with my friends and BF. If we had stayed one more day, we would have been stuck there terrified and unsure when we would get home. If we had stayed one more night, we could have been in that neighborhood because the last time BF and I were there we loved it so much and were trying all week to get there with our friends. I was feeling so guilty after hearing about the attacks because I had an amazing time right up until the day that other people lost their lives. My guilt was lifted when I watched a video of a father and son (you can see it here) about fighting bad guys with flowers and candles and it was so beautiful. If you have not watched it, please take a minute to do so. You can’t fight hate with hate. And, you certainly can’t fight hate by banning an entire group of HUMAN BEINGS running from exactly what I would be running from if I lived where they did. Try putting yourself in their shoes for a change. And, if you still don’t care, you really need to take a minute to reevaluate.
The reason you are living in the US and living the life you do, is because you got lucky. You are lucky that your parents/grandparents, etc. were born here, or hell, maybe they were immigrants themselves and that is why your family is here. Guess what? Other people lost the lottery of where they are born and are living in places where they fear for their lives every. single. day. When I wake up in the morning I don’t worry about walking out my front door to my street being bombed. I am more likely to get robbed by a random person, shot at school by a crazy person, or get hit by a bus. We don’t make it out of this life alive, however, if we live in fear every single day, that is not a life. You are just surviving.
I keep thinking about a photo I saw of a little girl in Syria. She has her hands up in the photo because she thought the camera was a gun. This is her life and she couldn’t have been older than 4 years old.
I can’t stop thinking about the Muslim community and what they must be feeling right now. I have volunteers at my work who are Muslim – wonderful sweet people who I enjoy working with all of the time. I can’t imagine what it must feel like to be treated like shit because of what I am wearing, or the color of my skin.
We are all human beings. If you are afraid, you can be. I am not saying there is anything wrong with that, but think about what comes out of your mouth, what memes you share, what ideas you are following, and how you treat other people. What if it was you? What if you were born in Syria and wanted nothing more than to get your family to safety? WE ARE ALL HUMAN BEINGS. Why aren’t we treating each other that way?
People are talking about religion and extremists. Sure, be afraid of extremists. They are terrifying, but they are from many different religions – and that doesn’t mean the entire religion is filled with horrible human beings. People are murdered every single day in this country and we now live in a place where we say “another mass shooting”. If everyone would stop being so selfish and treat one another as they want to be treated, maybe we would stop killing each other. Maybe we would want to help a person that was dealt a shitty hand in life.
When it comes down to it we all want the same things – love and happiness. Don’t you?
Thank you for reading. xo
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